I have a extra special guest on the podcast today, sharing her story of loss and hope. Her name is Angelica and she is one of my first online coaching program participants.
Angelica starts with the story of her first pregnancy, which was a roller coaster of a ride. This part of the story is better left to her to describe so you’ll have to have a listen!
She then had a miscarriage after a natural and unexpected pregnancy and tells of the grief she experienced even though she didn’t know she was pregnant until she was losing the baby.
Her second miscarriage happened after an IVF treatment. She and her husband had been planning and anticipating this pregnancy and the grief really hit hard when she lost this one.
Unresolved grief is cumulative, did you know that? When you have a loss and don’t fully complete the grieving process, the next time you have a loss, it hits harder. I suspect that’s a little of what happened when Angelica had her second loss.
Angelica recalls blowing the seeds from a dandelion as a symbolic way of saying good-bye to her baby. I love this idea for a ceremony of sorts for memorializing your baby.
She also spoke of the relief she felt from listening to other women’s stories. She learned to nurture herself by the second miscarriage, after working her way through her first miscarriage while teaching in front of a class full of people. (how many of us go back to work straightaway or even work right through the miscarriage, right?)
Angelica read a poem during the podcast that she found comforting. It’s called Little Snowdrop and the author is unknown. Here are the words:
The world may never notice
If a Snowdrop doesn’t bloom,
Or even pause to wonder
If the petals fall too soon.
But every life that ever forms,
Or ever comes to be,
Touches the world in some small way
For all eternity.
The little one we longed for
Was swiftly here and gone.
But the love that was then planted
Is a light that still shines on.
And though our arms are empty,
Our hearts know what to do.
For every beating of our hearts
Says that we love you.
I hope you’ll find some comfort in hearing Angelica’s story and her tips for getting through the grief. Comment on the part that resonated the most for you!